In a continuing effort to integrate politeness into my communication textbooks and into communication generally, here is a useful set of guidelines for teaching children proper phone etiquette.
Positiveness in interpersonal communication has to do with the use of positive rather than negative messages. For example, instead of the negative �I wish you wouldn�t ignore my opinions,� consider the positive alternative: �I feel good when you ask my opinions.� Instead of the negative �You look horrible with long hair� consider the positive: �I think you look great with short hair.� As you can expect, positive messages are important to creating and maintaining relationship satisfaction and are used more often by women, both in face-to-face and in computer-mediated communication, than by men. Interestingly enough, optimism has been found to positively correlate with relationship satisfaction and happiness; the more optimistic you are, the more your outlook is positive, the greater your relationship satisfaction and happiness are likely to be. Here are a few suggestions for communicating positiveness. � Look for the positi...
� Types of Love The Triangular Theory of Love Three different building blocks are presumed to combine to form different types of love: � Intimacy � feelings of warmth, understanding, communication, support, and sharing � Passion � emotional arousal and sexual desire � Commitment � the decision to stay in a relationship and to work to maintain it Different mixtures of these components create different experiences: � Nonlove � intimacy, passion, and commitment are all absent. � Liking � high intimacy, but little passion or commitment. � Infatuation � just passion. � Empty love � commitment without intimacy or passion. Things get more interesting when two or more components are combined: � Romantic love � a combination of intimacy and passion. � Companionate love � high intimacy and commitment, but little passion. � Fatuous love -- passion and commitment in the absence of intimacy. � Consummate love � intimacy, pa...
Here's a brief article from the NYTimes which reports on Lynne Kelly's research into narcissism and Facebook use. According to Kelly's findings, Facebook use is not associated with narcissism. However, those who collect huge numbers of virtual friends do seem to be high on narcissism. http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/05/17/does-facebook-turn-people-into-narcissists/
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